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10 Dec 2020

How to cope up with a parent moving in

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These days, a lot of parents are moving in with their children for a wide variety of reasons, either to maintain relationships or to tide through financial troubles. Having a parent move in with you is one of the best ways to show compassion and almost makes up for the effort taken by the parent to raise their child up to a certain age.

However, as wholesome as it sounds, a parent moving in can also lead to some potential emotional and financial pitfalls and this article uncovers some ways you can cope up with the same. Having a parent can also lead to a lot of sacrifices and compromises in terms of privacy, finances, etc., and all major decisions taken would have to take the parent into consideration too.

How would I be able to cope up?

1. A parent moving in can lead to a lot of additional direct and expenses, so try to find common ground with your parent and see how both of you would be able to make the most out of this new arrangement. Ensure that your parents are well informed about your goals and try to clear the air about your concerns too. This can also lead to both the parties living harmoniously.

2. Ensure that your whole family (wife, kids and any other dependants) is okay with the idea of having your parents move in with you to avoid any unnecessary frictions that may arise in the future. If there are any concerns with the same, work on addressing and sorting out the concern rather than discarding the idea altogether.

3. Understand and sort out your parents’ needs- Majority of parents that move in with kids due to some underlying health concerns. Try to figure out if you can provide enough care currently and in the future to help them overcome this problem. Consulting a specialist should help provide better clarity on this.

4. Try to sort out the finances part if your parents require special care to help them overcome any underlying issues. Ensure that the financial burden is shared in case the requirement is way beyond your financial capacity. And in case you can take the entire financial burden, ensure that you make this decision taking even the future situations into consideration.

5. Try to see if there’s any way they can help chip in- either financially or by taking up household chores like cooking food or taking care of your kids. Also see if there’s any way they can contribute a part of their retirement savings or pension in case you require that additional income. If there are any additional costs to be met and your parent is unable to chip in, try to split these costs between your siblings.

6. Enroll your parents and ensure that they're active in the local community. This goes a long way in keeping them engaged. Enquire and enroll them in something they’re interested in, such as senior centers, local libraries or local senior citizen clubs.

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